10 Days of 10 Ways to be The Considerate (of others) New Parent: A Guide to Etiquette {Day 10}

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How To Be Considerate New Parents

10.  Best behavior.

Yes, you are exhausted.  Yes, a hiatus is nice.  Yes, you wish that your hosts, who have no small children to chase, might have a sympathetic –or entertaining– glimpse into your everyday life.  If you are a guest in their home, now is not the time or place.  Indeed, I cannot think of a great time or place.  Besides, is it really your place to offer an empirical instruction on the imperfect realities of parenthood? Have your children on their best behavior in the homes of others.  Impress your hosts by how well-mannered they are in lieu of how much of an inconvenience they must be for you as their 24/7 parent.  Trust me, you’ll be glad you did.

I know, being a parent is tough stuff, and being a considerate parent is even more so.  I believe both endeavors are worthwhile.  Don’t you?

“The fragrance of what you give away stays with you.”  ~ Unknown

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10 Days of 10 Ways to be The Considerate (of others) New Parent: A Guide to Etiquette {Day 9}

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How To Be Considerate New Parents

9.  Events.

Do not bring baby or children to formal affairs, unless they are specifically invited to attend.  They are, at the very least, a distraction.  If they are normal, they will additionally be a disruption at some point over the course of a weekend, day, or multi-hour event.  Hire a babysitter, or send your regrets.  Do not take offense.  Appreciate the invitation, and appreciate the blessing that it is to be a parent.  Recognize that every rose has its thorns, and parenthood is no different.  It is okay to miss a few things in life for the sake of being your child’s parent.  Relish these young years.  They are but a moment in time, and they are priceless.

“The fragrance of what you give away stays with you.”  ~ Unknown

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10 Days of 10 Ways to be The Considerate (of others) New Parent: A Guide to Etiquette {Day Eight}

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How To Be Considerate New Parents

8.  Do not redecorate.

Unless the people you visit have young children, or run a daycare out of their home, chances are that not everything in their home environment is Magda Gerber or Maria Montessori ready for your child.  If you are unable to watch your child closely enough to prevent their injury in such a place, it would be most wise to bring a sitter along to help you, or to simply wait until your child is older for this visit.  You may find that it makes the most sense to invite others into your home for a period of months or years, and allow your child time to mature.

If you have arrived for your visit without this foresight, resist the temptation to redecorate or rearrange the home of your hostess.  Do not pluck pieces from around the home, approach the hostess with an armful of findings, and instruct her to put them away.  (It is her home, remember?) While it would not be considerate to do this, it could be perfectly appropriate to mention one or two items in a thoughtful way.  If so, say something like, “Our baby just loves your [insert expensive, dangerous, or breakable thing here]!  Every time we put him down he returns right to it.  I worry that in an instant he might actually grab it.  Would it be okay if it was put away during our stay?  I could help you to move it now, and to replace it before we leave.”

Do not allow your child to break anything.  When you are away from your home, watch your child even more carefully than normal.  Should your angel break something for the first time in 99 visits, pay for it, or replace it.  If it is priceless, at least be apologetic, and send flowers.  If it was obvious that you were doing little, if anything to prevent that breakage, the apology may not be received as sincere.  Prevention is always the best medicine.

“The fragrance of what you give away stays with you.”  ~ Unknown

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10 Days of 10 Ways to be The Considerate (of others) New Parent: A Guide to Etiquette {Day Seven}

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How To Be Considerate New Parents

7.  Babysitting.

Unless it is explicitly stated and arranged, you, as the parent, are the caretaker for your child.  You are always responsible for your child.  Do not visit friends or family with the idea that you are taking a vacation from this responsibility.  Unless it is specifically arranged, do not approach the visit as if your hosts are there to babysit for you.  That means, being considerate of the hosts’ daily schedule, you may sleep in as long as your child does.  If your child does not sleep in, unless it is otherwise arranged, you should arise to tend to them when they do.

“The fragrance of what you give away stays with you.”  ~ Unknown

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10 Days of 10 Ways to be The Considerate (of others) New Parent: A Guide to Etiquette {Day Six}

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How To Be Considerate New Parents

6.  Refrigerater & Household.

Do not allow your child to run freely through the refrigerator, or through the household.  Then, if you didn’t know better yourself, follow your child’s example.  Even adults shouldn’t meander through another’s home without an invitation.  Whether or not this is the home of your best friend from birth, or the domicile of an immediate family member, it is most considerate to conduct yourself as gracious a guest as you would in any other home.

“The fragrance of what you give away stays with you.”  ~ Unknown

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10 Days of 10 Ways to be The Considerate (of others) New Parent: A Guide to Etiquette {Day Five}

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How To Be Considerate New Parents

5.  Cupboards.

Do not make yourself at home by stashing your baby’s meals into your hostess’ cupboards.  If you have food for your baby that needs to be refrigerated, or frozen, inquire about this before your arrival.  Inquire again once you arrive.  Other items, like canned foods, you may keep with your bags.  Unless your hostess points out a place for your food items in the kitchen or pantry, retrieve what you need from your bags as you need it.
Do not go grocery shopping for your own family’s favorite foods, and fill the kitchen with your purchases if you have not discussed doing so with your hostess.  Unless you, or one of your children, have an allergy to the grains and beverages that your hostess has on hand, this is inconsiderate of what she has graciously selected for your nourishment.  If you would like to go grocery shopping for a few items, do not duplicate what she has on hand unless it is allergy-related, limit your purchases to just a few items, and offer to pick up (and pay for) anything she needs from the store.

“The fragrance of what you give away stays with you.”  ~ Unknown

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10 Days of 10 Ways to be The Considerate (of others) New Parent: A Guide to Etiquette {Day Four}

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How To Be Considerate New Parents

4.  Baby food.

Bring whatever you need to be self-sufficient, or purchase it after you arrive.  Do not assume that your hosts should purchase and prepare organic, puréed, balanced meals for your baby. If your baby has special needs, or dietary restrictions, discuss this with your hostess ahead of time.  When you discuss this, be prepared with self-sufficient solutions.  Your hostess may be so gracious as to provide some things, but this generosity on her part should not be expected or assumed.

 

“The fragrance of what you give away stays with you.”  ~ Unknown

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