Motivation on Monday: When? No Time Like the Present.

Be present. Live in the present. Carpe Diem.

Put down the games. Put away child’s play. Play out your life just the way you dream it should be.

“It’s being here now that’s important. There’s no past and there’s no future. Time is a very misleading thing. All there is ever, is the now. We can gain experience from the past, but we can’t relive it; and we can hope for the future, but we don’t know if there is one.”

~ George Harrison

What are your dreams for your life?  Take the time to think about them.  Take the time to write them down.  Take the time to map out your plan for their achievement.

“Don’t wait. The time will never be just right.”

~ Napoleon Hill

This is the dawn of a new day. The time to do that thing of which you dream is now.

Hop to it, Sweetie!
(And, let me know how it goes!)


Where to look?

Where to look?

Maybe you don’t know what your goals are. Maybe you do. Maybe you’re afraid to verbalize your goals publicly or privately because you are afraid of failure. Which scenario describes you?

Look within yourself. Allow yourself to discover what you truly want out of life, love, and work. What do you want to be? What do you want to learn? What do you want to do? Where do you want to travel? What are your visions and goals for your family? What, of all of your goals, is most important? What, in the end of life, will you be most thankful for achieving? What are your “cherry on top” goals?

Most people do not have written goals. (“Most”, meaning apporoximately 90-95% of people.) Of those who do have written goals, there are certainly those who have only written down a portion of their goals. (In other words, there is likely room for improvement for some subset of the 5-10% with written goals.) Those with written goals are extraordinarily successful at reaching them.

Here is a sagacious suggestion:

Write your goals down on paper.

This is a worthwhile enough suggestion to state again. And again.

Write your goals down on paper.
Write your goals down on paper.
Write your goals down on paper.

I have set goals for myself from a young age. I have experienced failure from time to time. Nevertheless, most people looking at my life from arm’s length would classify my existence a success. The key for me, and for anyone, really, is to press on. Keep moving. Be optimistic regardless of life’s setbacks.

Europe is exciting, and South America is interesting. Georgetown is wonderful, and Chapel Hill has its charm. Dental school is a study in self-abnegation (or self-abasement), and culinary school is a study in sapidity. Pregnancy is a surprising metamorphosis, and crossing the threshold of motherhood is miraculous.

I’ve been to what some would consider to be many places, and I’ve accomplished a few things along the way. But, I’m not finished.

With terrific things in my rearview, I am –as I should be– thankful. Nevertheless, I must focus on the road ahead.

In life, there are campers, hikers, and climbers. The climbers face the roughest route, with the most steep incline. Their journey is the most trying. Few choose the route they forge, and few enjoy the view they do.

I want to go on a path less travelled, and I want to go with trusting, positive people in my life. I want to continue to explore the world around me. I want to enjoy the most beautiful view. I want to continue to learn (yes, even after nine years of schooling). I want to continue to grow. I want to nourish my marriage, family, friendships, and life with sweet sagacity.

I am not afraid of coupling lofty goals with more realistic goals. I will aspire to every success available in life.

You are welcome to join me.


What is Sweet Sagacity?

What do I want to tell you? Well, what do you want to know?

It doesn’t really matter what I want to tell you. All that matters, is what you want to hear.

Ten different people could walk away with ten different impressions from any story, principle, or thing I share…

Why is that?

‎”The truth is that we hear what we’re prepared to hear. We learn what we’re prepared to learn. We discover and comprehend what we’re prepared to discover and comprehend.” ~ Ron Willingham

So, I ask. What do you want to hear? What do you want to learn? What do you want to discover and comprehend? Ask yourself these questions, and prepare to receive the answers for which you wish.

If you are honest with yourself, truly honest with yourself, you will prepare yourself for the reception of truth. If you are not wholly honest with yourself (an unfortunate number are not), you will prepare yourself for one (of an infinite number) of truth’s modifications.

Give yourself the gift of honesty with self. It is priceless, yet it is free. It is entirely up to you to give. It will free your mind, and simplify your life. If you seek anything of sweet sagacity, you’d first benefit from this.

Give up your pride and vain ambitions for living an empty life of fallacy. Give up the material things that go hand in hand with this. If you do this, greater sagacity will be yours.

Some become angry over facts. As if the facts control themselves, and have chosen to make anyone angry. The facts are the facts. You’ve surely created a certain number of facts in your life which are pleasing to your mind, and a certain number which are unpleasant. We all have.

What do you do with the unpleasant facts you’ve created? Do you swiftly sweep them under your rug, and pretend that they don’t exist? Do you victimize yourself, and blame some other person for putting them there? Do you endeavor to dump these unpleasant particles from your domicile onto someone else’s foyer floor? (Do you then run around the neighborhood exclaiming what a mess is in your victim’s foyer?) Do you publicly point out how much messier than your own your foe’s foyer is, to distract others from the miserable self-created facts of your life?

Yes, you’ve probably done at least one of these things in your life, maybe more. Stop it. Seriously. Stop. It.

This sort of conduct doesn’t bring you relief. This adds greater weight to things which were uncomfortably heavy for you to begin with.

What, then, to do with unpleasant facts you’ve created in life?

1) Recognize them without added sweetener.
2) Apologize, if appropriate. (This process is for things you have created.)
3) Make any feasible corrections.
4) Determine to avoid any future reproductions.
5) Be grateful for the enlightenment. Congratulate yourself for doing yourself a favor, and move on to a brighter, less encumbered future. (Yes, less. Consequences still exist, but you have the peace of mind in knowing you’ve done everything in your power to correct yourself.)
6) Worry only about what you have power to control. (The rest is a waste of your time and peace of mind.)

When it comes to wisdom, you are your own gatekeeper. It is my hope to bring you sagacious sweetness at its best. What you take away from what I bring to the table is entirely up to you.



Who am I?

I am many things.

I am a…
Failure. Success. Dreamer. Listener. Explorer. Innovator. Artist. Entertainer. Creator. Leader. Friend. Multitasker. Dancer. Designer. Student. Choreographer. Servant. Cheerleader. Planner. Flautist. Writer. Francophone. Photojournalist. Tutor. Jogger. Queen. Yankee. Southerner. Hoya. Traveller. Sailor. Minimalist. Hostess. Motivator. Model. Advisor. Comedian. Organizer. Homemaker. Researcher. Amateur. Tarheel. Dentist. Cook. Poet. Perfectionist. Optimist. Wife. Mother.

I am human. You and I have some identity in common, and yet I am unique. I am an ordinary woman who feels extraordinarily fortunate. I have gained much, and I have much yet to gain.

I am one who aspires for every lovely or worthwhile treasure. While I appreciate gifts of every sort, the greatest gifts are those that edify or uplift the mind, body, and heart. If there is any good gift in my life’s acquisition, I hope to share it with anyone desirous to receive it.

Welcome to my gift list. Welcome to Sweet Sagacity.